October 24, 2016, our 7th wedding anniversary:
Seven years ago I walked down that aisle to meet you and we became husband and wife. There we were, a woman past her prime and a forty year old bachelor, madly in love and excited for the future.
We’ve sailed the oceans, hiked treacherous trails, explored glaciers, survived vacationing with each other’s in-laws and became parents.
There have been good days and bad days. This year, it seems there have been too many bad days. You lost a very dear uncle and I lost my mother. Both were unexpected and both have left deep holes in our hearts.
The loss of my mother has been devastating. There are many days I feel lost, empty and completely shattered.
One thing has remained constant… you.
You’ve been patient and loved me unconditionally. You’ve given me room to grieve and have never pressured me or given me a deadline.
I’ve been on an emotional roller coaster and some how you’ve managed to hang on.
Thank you. Thank you for showing your love, even when you didn’t know what to say or you were frightened of upsetting me. Thank you just being there for me.
Thank you for letting me be angry even when I turned that anger on you.
But as I work through my grief and towards finding myself again, this I promise you…
I promise to try daily to show you how much I love you. I promise to listen with an open mind and an open heart. I promise to speak to you with compassion and kindness. I promise to notice and acknowledge the great things that you do, instead of getting hung up on the negatives. I promise to have patience and to never keep score. I promise to stick by you just as you have stuck by me. I promise to make time for you.
I promise to choose love.
You are my constant. You are my best friend and always will be. Happy anniversary.
Love you mean it,